Is Your Partner Lying?: More Body Signs! (Part II)

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Do you agree that when a partner, whether a spouse or a romantic partner, is giving you a long pause or “killing the time” by repeating the question or asking clarificatory questions before he or she answers a serious query that examines his or her fidelity to the relationship, lying?

For instance, you will ask your girlfriend: “Who was the person you were talking to privately as I passed by in your office yesterday?” And then she starts to give a long pause with a facial expression such as this. Don’t you think she is lying?

confused suzanne somers GIF

GIF Credit: https://giphy.com/search/thinking

Lying destroys trust and eventually a social relationship. It’s really painful to see your romantic or marital relationship going down the drain after you have invested much time, emotion, and resources just to build it only to be destroyed by a single lie or act of dishonesty by our partner!

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It is important therefore to immediately assess  whether your partner is telling lies about your relationship. it’s important to nip a problem in the bud. You should not allow the relationship to deteriorate further because of your inability to spot lies and dishonesty. Relationships can be salvaged if we know at an early stage what’s wrong about it. So knowing some clues of lying can be helpful to understand your partner’s state of mind and his or fidelity to the relationship.

smart think about it GIF by LOCOS ONLY

GIF Credit: https://giphy.com/gifs/eldusty-el-dusty-l0Iy4M0jO48jGB3R6

You cannot rely totally on the words of your partner. Words can be manipulated or manufactured, but not the body language. So watch  his or her body language, actuation, demeanor, while your are talking with him or her on serious matters that affect the status of your relationship.

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This post is a continuation of my previous post entitled: “Some Signs that Your Partner is Lying about your Relationship! (Part I).”  I recommend to read it also to complete the list of clues or body signs whether your partner is telling lies about the relationship or not.

  1. Your Partner Instinctively Cover Vulnerable body Parts

Instinctively covering vulnerable parts such as the throat, chest, head, or abdomen when asked a question can also be a sign that your partner is caught off-guarded and thus a sign that he or she is hiding something. It indicates his or her vulnerability because he or she is keeping something in the mind.

2. Your Partner is Shuffling His or Her Feet

Shuffling one’s feet during a serious conversation can indicate that the person is uneasy and nervous of something and thus hides something negative. It can also indicate that she or he wants to leave the situation or want to walk away. One way to detect whether your partner is lying  is to observe the movement of his or her feet. His or her body would show if he or she is comfortable with the truth or nervous because he or she is hiding something on the status of your relationship.

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3. Your Partner is Staring Without Blinking Much or  Do Too Much Blinking

People who lie usually break their eye contract with others. But it is also possible that they go the extra mile to maintain eye contact in attempt to control and manipulate others.

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GIF Credit: https://giphy.com/gifs/fallontonight-relatable-reaction-gif-oZvduOsUmlsk

Unusual staring without blinking at regular intervals by your partner can indicate lying. Honest people will occasionally shift their eyes around and may even look away from time to time when explaining something. Liars, on the other hand, will use a cold, steady gaze to intimidate and control others. But a partner should watch out for rapid blinking which can also indicate that your romantic mate or spouse is lying.

4.  Your Partner is Pointing a Lot

When a liar becomes hostile or defensive, s/he is attempting to turn the tables on the other person. The lying partner can get hostile during the conversation if the other has discovered his/her lies, which may result in a lot of pointing. In this case, the partner has already blown his/her chance to be trusted in the relationship.

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“You’re busted my dear”:

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5. Your Partner is Rubbing or Touching the Nose

When your partner touches or rubs his/her nose before answering a direct question, you must be alert of lying. Rubbing or touching one’s nose in an interrogation is generally considered a sign that the person is hiding something. He or she is buying time to think about an answer. If he or she is honest, a question can immediately be answered without spending much time.

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Final Reminder: Differentiate Lying from Falsehood

As a partner, you must distinguish lying from falsehood. Basically, lying is giving a wrong information to the person or group who has the right to know the truth, while falsehood is giving a wrong or untruthful information to a stranger or to a person or group who has no right to know truth. Falsehood involves personal information which has nothing to do with the relationship, it’s part of the person’s privacy and personal security.

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9 Top Signs Your Boyfriend is a Playboy

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1. He is usually a good-looking man.

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Cheers! You’ve got a man that you can be proud of to your friends in terms of looks and sociability! Playboys are usually good-looking and sociable human beings. But they can’t be reliable in terms of fidelity and commitment. If your boyfriend is a playboy and an expert in the game of love, he is not only charming to you but also to others.  He always want to be on top of his game. That is why he is always conscious about his appearance, physical shape, and demeanor. Since women generally like men who are confident, he is usually slow in movements and actions, always a gentleman to impress you that he is the man you’re looking for! But things are not what they seem! If you’re looking for a man who date you in the altar, then a playboy is not the Mr. Right for you! Move on and find another man!

2. He’s evasive and mysterious.

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Your relationship with him is not constant or solid. Actually he is always mysterious about personal things. You would rarely have him tell you about his dreams, aspirations or insecurities. They are just protective about personal data. He wouldn’t want you to use these things against him at some point. Playboys are always hiding something but they tend to master the art of deception. So do a background check of the person you are dating!

3. His words do not match his actions.

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A playboy boyfriend is good at giving promises to his girlfriends. He is eloquent and usually a master of the art of persuasion. He can play with words. He says one thing and does another thing. He makes promises he cannot keep. In fact he is more about calming your feelings for the moment rather than acting to making sure you are secure.

4. He doesn’t make contact when he’s away.

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A playboy usually has other relationships. So he cannot devote his entire attention to one girl or partner.  If he’s out of town for three days or three weeks he would usually avoid contacting you as his girlfriend. As soon as he comes back, though, best believe you’ll be the first person he hits up, saying sorry and coming up with ‘I had network problems’ excuses – or my personal favorite, ‘My battery died’. So, wherever you were, no-one had a phone charger?

5. He will tell you he’s not like others.

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A testimony about one’s self is actually self-serving. Don’t immediately believe him. A playboy boyfriend is usually good at blaming others but not himself. It’s important to him that you believe him when he says he’s not like the others. He will even get ‘hurt’ when you accuse him of being just like everyone else.

6. He has other relationships.

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Boy! Playboys are not satisfied with one girl and one relationship. They are not born to be like this, though. They are probably influenced by their own fathers, relatives, and friends who are womanizers and who do not respect women’s dignity by sticking to one partner. He cannot commit to you as your boyfriend and promise you marriage because his attention is divided with other girls. But take note that playboys are good at hiding his other relationships. He deletes videos and text messaging that can incriminate him!

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7. He often talks about sex in your relationship.

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Since playboys are only after sex, they have no capacity to go beyond the physical and the material. They have no intention of marrying you. Their conversations are usually full of sexual innuendos that reflect they state of mind. They can be handsy, touching your body when in public and private places. Run away from him and find a suitable partner!

8. He’s not willing to show you to his friends and family.

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Playboys are not fond of introducing their “collection” of girls to their families, relatives and friends. If your boyfriend is not introducing you to his family, close relatives, and friends, he is probably a playboy. He is not interested of establishing a long-term commitment with you in marriage. Remember that marriage of two people is also a union of two families and their network of relatives and friends. If he is keeping you away from his family and relatives, he’s probably thinking only of a short-term relationship with you and may only be thinking of having sex with you! He’s in a hurry. If this is the case, start looking for another guy worthy of your love!

9. He’s not clear about the relationship.

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The relationship can be vague and mysterious. Veteran playboys do not want a long-term relationship that can lead to marriage. He only wants temporary relationship. He is  ever giving you every detail about his whereabouts or what he is up to when he is not with you. He has no clear plans of the future. He just only wants erotic relationship with you. Playboys are certified womanizers. Thus, run away from your playboy-boyfriend and find a more honest and sincere man who wants to marry you in the future.

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References

Cosmo (n.d.) 5 signs You’re Dating a Playboy. Cosmopolitan. Retrieved from https://www.cosmopolitan.co.za/sex-relationships/5-signs-youre-dating-playboy/.

Imafidon, C. (n.d.). 13 Things Only Girls Who Date A Playboy Would Know. Lifehack.org. https://www.lifehack.org/324408/13-things-only-girls-who-date-playboy-would-know.

Is Your Partner Lying?: More Body Signs! (Part II)

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Do you agree that when a partner, whether a spouse or a romantic partner, is giving you a long pause or “killing the time” by repeating the question or asking clarificatory questions before he or she answers a serious query that examines his or her fidelity to the relationship, lying?

For instance, you will ask your girlfriend: “Who was the person you were talking to privately as I passed by in your office yesterday?” And then she starts to give a long pause with a facial expression such as this. Don’t you think she is lying?

confused suzanne somers GIF

GIF Credit: https://giphy.com/search/thinking

Lying destroys trust and eventually a social relationship. It’s really painful to see your romantic or marital relationship going down the drain after you have invested much time, emotion, and resources just to build it only to be destroyed by a single lie or act of dishonesty by our partner!

photo sleeping GIF

GIF Credit: https://giphy.com/search/relationship

It is important therefore to immediately assess  whether your partner is telling lies about your relationship. it’s important to nip a problem in the bud. You should not allow the relationship to deteriorate further because of your inability to spot lies and dishonesty. Relationships can be salvaged if we know at an early stage what’s wrong about it. So knowing some clues of lying can be helpful to understand your partner’s state of mind and his or fidelity to the relationship.

smart think about it GIF by LOCOS ONLY

GIF Credit: https://giphy.com/gifs/eldusty-el-dusty-l0Iy4M0jO48jGB3R6

You cannot rely totally on the words of your partner. Words can be manipulated or manufactured, but not the body language. So watch  his or her body language, actuation, demeanor, while your are talking with him or her on serious matters that affect the status of your relationship.

body language pbs GIF by Rewire.org

GIF Credit: https://giphy.com/gifs/rewiredotorg-pbs-3ov9kaOEO8CnMIfQd2

This post is a continuation of my previous post entitled: “Some Signs that Your Partner is Lying about your Relationship! (Part I).”  I recommend to read it also to complete the list of clues or body signs whether your partner is telling lies about the relationship or not.

  1. Your Partner Instinctively Cover Vulnerable body Parts

Instinctively covering vulnerable parts such as the throat, chest, head, or abdomen when asked a question can also be a sign that your partner is caught off-guarded and thus a sign that he or she is hiding something. It indicates his or her vulnerability because he or she is keeping something in the mind.

2. Your Partner is Shuffling His or Her Feet

Shuffling one’s feet during a serious conversation can indicate that the person is uneasy and nervous of something and thus hides something negative. It can also indicate that she or he wants to leave the situation or want to walk away. One way to detect whether your partner is lying  is to observe the movement of his or her feet. His or her body would show if he or she is comfortable with the truth or nervous because he or she is hiding something on the status of your relationship.

feet GIF

GIF Credit: https://giphy.com/gifs/feet-bgit6nEomDzUY

3. Your Partner is Staring Without Blinking Much or  Do Too Much Blinking

People who lie usually break their eye contract with others. But it is also possible that they go the extra mile to maintain eye contact in attempt to control and manipulate others.

staring jimmy fallon GIF

GIF Credit: https://giphy.com/gifs/fallontonight-relatable-reaction-gif-oZvduOsUmlsk

Unusual staring without blinking at regular intervals by your partner can indicate lying. Honest people will occasionally shift their eyes around and may even look away from time to time when explaining something. Liars, on the other hand, will use a cold, steady gaze to intimidate and control others. But a partner should watch out for rapid blinking which can also indicate that your romantic mate or spouse is lying.

4.  Your Partner is Pointing a Lot

When a liar becomes hostile or defensive, s/he is attempting to turn the tables on the other person. The lying partner can get hostile during the conversation if the other has discovered his/her lies, which may result in a lot of pointing. In this case, the partner has already blown his/her chance to be trusted in the relationship.

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GIF Credit: https://giphy.com/gifs/daytimedivas-vh1-diva-xUPGcAfzVOPhVyQwKY

“You’re busted my dear”:

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5. Your Partner is Rubbing or Touching the Nose

When your partner touches or rubs his/her nose before answering a direct question, you must be alert of lying. Rubbing or touching one’s nose in an interrogation is generally considered a sign that the person is hiding something. He or she is buying time to think about an answer. If he or she is honest, a question can immediately be answered without spending much time.

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GIF Credit: https://giphy.com/gifs/wiggle-nose-uefJLMP0RiOrK

Final Reminder: Differentiate Lying from Falsehood

As a partner, you must distinguish lying from falsehood. Basically, lying is giving a wrong information to the person or group who has the right to know the truth, while falsehood is giving a wrong or untruthful information to a stranger or to a person or group who has no right to know truth. Falsehood involves personal information which has nothing to do with the relationship, it’s part of the person’s privacy and personal security.

Thank you for reading this post. You are free to comment, like, and share it. You are also invited to follow this blog to be alerted of my incoming blog. Best wishes to you! Cheers!