8 Biggest Turn Offs for Women in a Date

interested water bottle GIF

The following are some of the biggest turn offs for women in a date. Men must avoid these actions and traits when having a formal or informal date with a lady. A turned off girl would probably tell her partner the following observations:

1.You Lack Confidence, Boy! Your Body Language will Show it.

d&d love GIF by Hyper RPG

Insecure personality as shown in the guy’s body language is a big turn off for women in a date. If you’re not confident about yourself or are feeling nervous during your dinner-date, your female partner will notice it. This is one of the biggest reasons why guys get spurned on a date. Women usually look for guys who are confident, secure, and ready to protect them. How can a nervous guy assure a woman that he can be dependable and reliable if he himself lacks self-confidence?

2. Oh, Boy! You look Cheap in Your Own Date When You Don’t Have To Be!

dinner GIF

First impression counts in your first date. Prepare for it, including your budget. Make sure you have enough money to bring your girl to an expensive dinner-date! Your date will result in a big turn off if she noticed that you trying to save money and thus look cheap! The following actions are some of the biggest turn offs for women:

“#1: Order the cheapest thing on the menu, and make a joke if his date orders something more expensive. Even if you’re kidding, this makes her feel hugely unappreciated.

#2: Ask to split the bill, when he’s the one who asked her out. Look, ‘don’t go Dutch’ is a a core rule of manliness. If you ask her out, you pay. It’s just polite.

#3: Bring a bottle of wine to a party, and take the leftover wine home. I’m not even going to explain this one…”(Sutherns).

3. You Have a Bad (Or Overpowering) Scent, Boy!

gwen stefani omg GIF

Some advice to avoid a bad or overpowering smell:

Step #1: Use antiperspirant, instead of just deodorant. Deodorant only attempts to block bad odors… while antiperspirant stops sweating altogether.

Step #2: Brush your teeth well every day, instead of just intensely brushing right before a date. Bad breath germs can live in your mouth/throat and can even grow … so wipe them out regularly by brushing on a schedule.

Step #3: Choose the right cologne (and use a max of two sprays). Some cologne are more powerful than others, so get one that’s long-lasting, and tone down the amount of sprays (one spray on both your chest and neck are ideal).

4. You Accidentally Make Yourself the Focus of Your Date!

adam devine workaholics GIF

“There’s a distinct line (a timeline, actually) between being expressive (what girls want)and being too informative (what they don’t want). Being expressive means telling her that you like her, being honest when something’s bothering you, etc.…but being too informative means talking about things that are way too personal/serious too soon (when she’s not ready to hear them…)” (Sutherns).

5. You are a Boring Guy!

gigolo love GIF

A boring guy is another big turn off for women. Women like dating partners who are entertaining with a strong sense of humor, making the date worthwhile. All girls and guys have experienced this at some point in their lives. Try to sit next to a guy, and his conversations were so boring that you would rather jump off a cliff.

6. You’re a Narcissist Dating Partner!

dating date GIF by The Hills

A self-centered guy who cares more about himself than his date is a big turn off for women. Any guy who spends more time in front of the mirror than his own girlfriend is a huge turn off. Also, if you’re having dinner with your date, and the waiter accidentally spills a bit of juice on your silk shirt, wipe it away like a man. Don’t whine about how your silk shirt is ruined and behave like a drama queen.

7. You Act Like You Know it all, Boy!

sexy youtube GIF by Hyper RPG

Don’t talk as if you know all the answers to all the questions of your female partner. Nothing is worse than you acting like a dude who’s too self-absorbed with your own self and forget to notice that you partner exists. Talk less and listen more to your date. Make her feel that she is important and special during your date.

8. You’re not Following Her Through, Boy!

food coma sleeping GIF by The Grinder

Women like persistent men. After the date, women expect their men to make a follow after the first encounter. They like men who pursue them. An inconsistent guy is a biggest loser and turn off for women.

GIF Credit: Giphy.com

References

Patterson, E. (n.d.). The 10 Biggest Dating Turn Offs for Women. Retrieved from https://www.lovepanky.com/men/understanding-women/10-dating-turn-offs-for-women.

Sutherns, R. (n.d.). “7 Big Things that Turn Women Off [From Her]”. Retrieved from https://www.mantelligence.com/surprising-things-that-turn-women-off/.

Thank you for reading this post. Sign up with our newsletter or follow us via email for more updates.

Globalization of Love: Benefits & Risks of Online Dating

green love you Sticker by AnimatedText

BENEFITS

Many people today turn to the Internet and navigate in the cyber space to find their romantic partners. The Internet offers benefits in online dating. With the advent of globalization, digital technology, and the cyber space, people all over  can easily look for partners around the globe through various dating sites. Traditionally, before the invention of the Internet in the late 1980’s, people’s choice of finding their romantic partners is limited by physical distance and spatio-temporal space. Thus, they search for partners who are proximate to them in their school, office, neighborhood, or organization. But with the current worldwide web and many dating sites, they can now look for partners worldwide. Online dating has its own benefits and risks, though.

1. Cheaper

dating flirting GIF by GIPHY Studios Originals

To find a romantic partner through online dating sites is cheaper than face-to-face dating encounters. Since there are many free dating sites, one can easily join their social network and start finding a romantic partner. One only needs a  gadget  and an Internet connection. In online dating, the guy does not spend a penny just to talk to his dating partner, no coffee or dinner date.

2. Convenient

A person who search for a partner online can immediately focus on people with similar, beliefs, age and other important criteria without having to spend time and money for a date. Non-matching people can easily be sidestepped without ever needing to make contact. Online dating is a “partner shopping” in a global supermarket of humanity (Healthyplace.com).

excited schitts creek GIF by CBC

3. Easy Access & Higher Chance of Finding a Match

online dating GIF

In online dating, potential partners can easily access  many potential partners than they could often find in face-to-face interaction. This is especially true for individuals interested in partners of a particular type, orientation, lifestyle, or in isolated areas (Nicholeson, 20 April 2014).

Many online dating sites offer various types of personality testing and matching. Such matching can help guide people toward dating partners who may be more compatible (Ibid).

Risks

1. Scamming

scamming joanne the scammer GIF by Super Deluxe

Often in the form of an odd financial request, the scammer will spend a few weeks talking to a target to gain their trust, then, seemingly out of the blue the victim will receive a request for financial aid due to some outlandish set of circumstances that has befallen their new friend.

2. Catfishing/ Misrepresentation

pretending music video GIF by DallasK

The term catfishing refers to the practice of creating a fake online identity or profile to pursue one or multiple online relationships. While this is a less common occurrence on the more sinister end of the spectrum, as it turns out, everybody lies; according to a 2007 survey The Truth about Lying in Online Dating Profiles 81% of online dater’s lie about characteristics such as height, figure and age.

sad pretty little liars GIF

3. Identity Theft

identity GIF

Age old advice, be careful what you put online. NEVER post your address on your profile as this can lead to a whole host of problems beyond identity theft such as stalking and harassment.

Online Dating websites need a lot of personal and financial information to set up an account so make sure you have an up to date Internet Security software package installed to safeguard yourself from viruses and hacking.

Rewire.org pbs online dating rewire GIF

 

References

Nicholson,J. (30 April 2014). Pros and Cons of Online Dating: When and How to Date Online. Psychology Today. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201404/pros-and-cons-online-dating.

Notorn Team (n.d.). “Is Online Dating for you? The risks and benefits of searching for love online”. Norton UKBlog. Retrieved from https://uk.norton.com/norton-blog/2016/05/is_online_datingfor0.html.

Healthyplace.com (n.d.). “Advantages and Disadvantages of Online Dating”. Retrieved from https://www.healthyplace.com/relationships/online-relationships/the-advantages-and-disadvantages-of-online-dating

 

8 Biggest Turn Offs for Women in a Date

interested water bottle GIF

The following are some of the biggest turn offs for women in a date. Men must avoid these actions and traits when having a formal or informal date with a lady. A turned off girl would probably tell her partner the following observations:

1.You Lack  Confidence, Boy! Your Body Language will Show it.

d&d love GIF by Hyper RPG

Insecure personality as shown in the guy’s body language is a big turn off for women in a date.  If you’re not confident about yourself or are feeling nervous during your dinner-date, your female partner will notice it. This is one of the biggest reasons why guys get spurned on a date. Women usually look for guys who are confident, secure, and ready to protect them. How can a nervous guy assure a woman that he can be dependable and reliable if he himself lacks self-confidence?

2. Oh, Boy! You look Cheap in Your Own Date When You Don’t Have To Be!

dinner GIF

First impression counts in your first date. Prepare for it, including your budget. Make sure you have enough money to bring your girl to an expensive dinner-date! Your date will result in a big turn off if she noticed that you trying to save money and thus look cheap! The following actions are some of the biggest turn offs for women:

“#1: Order the cheapest thing on the menu, and make a joke if his date orders something more expensive. Even if you’re kidding, this makes her feel hugely unappreciated.

#2: Ask to split the bill, when he’s the one who asked her out. Look, ‘don’t go Dutch’ is a  a core rule of manliness. If you ask her out, you pay. It’s just polite.

#3: Bring a bottle of wine to a party, and take the leftover wine home. I’m not even going to explain this one…”(Sutherns).

3. You Have a Bad (Or Overpowering) Scent, Boy!

gwen stefani omg GIF

Some advice to avoid a bad or overpowering smell:

Step #1: Use antiperspirant, instead of just deodorant. Deodorant only attempts to block bad odors… while antiperspirant stops sweating altogether.

Step #2: Brush your teeth well every day, instead of just intensely brushing right before a date. Bad breath germs can live in your mouth/throat and can even grow … so wipe them out regularly by brushing on a schedule.

Step #3: Choose the right cologne (and use a max of two sprays). Some cologne are more powerful than others, so get one that’s long-lasting, and tone down the amount of sprays (one spray on both your chest and neck are ideal).

4. You Accidentally Make Yourself the Focus of Your Date!

adam devine workaholics GIF

“There’s a distinct line (a timeline, actually) between being expressive (what girls want)and being too informative (what they don’t want). Being expressive means telling her that you like her, being honest when something’s bothering you, etc.…but being too informative means talking about things that are way too personal/serious too soon (when she’s not ready to hear them…)” (Sutherns).

5. You are a Boring Guy!

gigolo love GIF

A boring guy is another big turn off for women. Women  like dating partners who are entertaining with a strong sense of humor, making the date worthwhile. All girls and guys have experienced this at some point in their lives. Try to sit next to a guy, and his conversations were so boring that you would rather jump off a cliff.

6. You’re a Narcissist Dating Partner!

dating date GIF by The Hills

A self-centered guy who cares more about himself than his date is a big turn off for women. Any guy who spends more time in front of the mirror than his own girlfriend is a huge turn off. Also, if you’re having dinner with your date, and the waiter accidentally spills a bit of juice on your silk shirt, wipe it away like a man. Don’t whine about how your silk shirt is ruined and behave like a drama queen.

7. You Act Like You Know it all, Boy!

sexy youtube GIF by Hyper RPG

Don’t talk as if you know all the answers to all the questions of your female partner. Nothing is worse than you acting like a dude who’s too self-absorbed with your own self and forget to notice that you partner exists. Talk less and listen more to your date. Make her feel that she is important and special during your date.

 8. You’re not Following Her Through, Boy!

food coma sleeping GIF by The Grinder

Women like persistent men. After the date, women expect their men to make a follow after the first encounter. They like men who pursue them. An inconsistent guy is a biggest loser and turn off for women.

GIF Credit: Giphy.com

References

Patterson, E. (n.d.). The 10 Biggest Dating Turn Offs for Women. Retrieved from https://www.lovepanky.com/men/understanding-women/10-dating-turn-offs-for-women.

Sutherns, R. (n.d.). “7 Big Things that Turn Women Off [From Her]”. Retrieved from https://www.mantelligence.com/surprising-things-that-turn-women-off/.

Thank you for reading this post. Sign up with our newsletter or follow us via email for more updates.

 

Best Strategies in Courting Women

people-2562401_640

Introduction

Two things to remember before courting a woman. First, dating is different from courtship, although they are related. Dating can lead to courtship. Second, it is important to court one woman at a time. Finally, courtship is not a game but a preparation for marriage for the Catholic Church.

Dating is different from courting

romantic-1175777_640

Maybe one thinks that dating and courting are the same thing, but actually, they’re very different. Dating is more casual, and he or she does not necessarily looking for someone serious. Rather it’s just testing the waters and having fun, completely understandable.

Courting is based on the idea of eventual marriage. Okay, if one is just had a shiver up your spine reading the word, “marry,” I get it, it’s big step. But courtship is really meant for those who are seriously looking for someone (Ivanovic).

You can only court one girl at a time

people-2557408_640

One can’t be courting three girls at one time. It will not work. If one girl would know that your courting other girls, the guy would lose all his chances. So it’s important to just focus one’s attention on the one girl he is courting. If she’s not compatible then the guy must end the courtship and start courting someone else. If he courting a bunch of girls at once, his not really genuinely trying to get to know each one as well….” (Ivanovic).

stop-3089945_640

Strategies in Courting Women

1. Know the woman you’re courting: Do your homework. Do some background check before making your first move.

couple-1845620_640

This is the most important part in courting. Before taking a move, you should know your woman very well in order for you to get some idea on how to get on with her. The important things that you should know about her include her family, religion, friends, and personal background (Suminguit 12 Dec 2012).

2. Always pay attention to details when you’re  dealing with her.  Women love rose petals sprinkled on beds.  From little surprises to the opening of car doors, it’s the little things that women desire when they are being courted (Lovesujiery).

ronald-van-der-meulen-1232510_640

3. Court when you’re thinking of marriage.

Don’t play games with the woman you’re courting. Courtship is a preparation for marriage. Close your eyes and think about it. Can you see this woman being your wife? If so, then why not give it a try and court her. You should really only be courting someone when you’re considering the idea of marrying them (Ivanovic).

4. Persistence pays in courtship: Sustained and persistent efforts in wooing a woman can make her fall in love in the long run.

couple-1210023_640

“Most women will fall in love to a guy that excels more efforts than those who are not. Efforts counts more than anything that you can imagine. They are weakness of women, the power of men. No matter how hard it will be, just don’t give up. Instead, excel more efforts.

Meet with her friends, or maybe her family. Visit her at home or go to a place she often visits. Love what she loves. Buy her flowers and chocolates without thinking that it is very crazy. Don’t you know that they love crazy stuff? It is just too cool for them.” (Suminguit 12 Dec 2012).

Catholic Church’s Teaching on Courtship

sacrament-338987_640

Courtship is always a preparation for the Church. It’s a period of discovery whether 2 mature people are compatible for a lifelong commitment in the sacrament of matrimony. The longer the period of courtship, the better is the discovery period for the couple. Usually, it takes 2 or more years to know who the person one wishes to marry. Courtship can be a short period with a definitive end.  It ends either in an engagement or in the dissolution of the relationship (https://tradcatfem.com).

For the Church, building a chaste, holy marriage begins before one is married and the only legitimate reason for company-keeping is courtship, which is a preparation for marriage. Before embarking on a traditional Catholic courtship, both the man and the woman must ensure that they are both prepared, spiritually, financially, and mentally for marriage.

glass-3109246_640

Catholic marriage will take place only after the period of spiritual, mental and financial preparation has been completed by engaged couples  (https://tradcatfem.com).

maxresdefault

Photo Source: youtube.com

Photo Credit (except with attribution): Pixabay.com

References

Ivanovic, N. (n.d.). “How to Court a Woman: 15 Ways to Do It Like a Classy Gentleman”. LovePanky. Retrieved from https://www.lovepanky.com/men/attracting-and-dating-women/how-to-court-a-woman.

Lovesujiery (n.d.) “8 Ways women Want to be Courted by Men”. Babble. Retrieved from https://www.babble.com/relationships/8-ways-women-want-to-be-courted-by-men/.

Suminguit, R.J. (7 Dec 2012). “How to Court Your Girl in 5 Simple Steps”. BrighterYou:  Advice for Love. Retrieved from https://brighteryou.wordpress.com/2012/12/07/how-to-court-your-girl-in-5-simple-steps/.

________ (n.d.) “Stages of a Traditional Catholic Courtship”. Traditional Catholic Femininity. Retrieved from https://tradcatfem.com/2017/07/27/stages-of-traditional-catholic-courtship/.

Thank you for reading post. Sign up with our newsletter or follow this blog via email.

 

How to Judge Your Lover’s Action

adult-business-businesswoman-165907

People tend to judge the meaning of an action from the outside, and often fail to see what’s inside of the person’s mind doing the act. Most romantic relationships fail because the jealous partner only sees the social meaning of the external act of the other but not the motive behind it.

Web Hosting

loneliness-1879453_640

One girlfriend just broke up with her boyfriend when she saw him chatting with a beautiful girl from afar. She interpreted the animated conversation of the two as a form of romantic attraction. Without asking the boyfriend about the girl and what they were talking about, she immediately stopped texting and communicating with him. She eventually broke up with his boyfriend without clarifying with him of what actually happened during that animated encounter with another girl.

boy-555577_640

Max Weber, a German sociologist, has a very good advice for people who want to judge the meaning of people’s interaction. He called this approach as “verstehen” or “interpretive understanding”. This concept implies that a person must judge behavior from the actor’s point of view. If one really wants to understand the true meaning of the human action, he or she must put himself/herself into the shoes of the other.

couple-3157067_640

“Verstehen” implies understanding the social meaning of the person’s external act or the stereotype and the motive behind the act. It requires empathy. Without learning the motive of the act, the observer would pass rash judgment and misjudge the true significance of the act. The girl could have investigated or probed further on what was really the motive why his boyfriend had an animated conversation with the other girl.

people-3422435_640

Many romantic partners and spouses separate because they pass rash judgment, they only know the meaning of their partners’ external acts but fail to understand the real intentions underneath them. Jealously and other forms of negative emotions can sometimes cloud their judgments and forget to probe what actually happened with their partners’ or spouses’ encounters with the significant other.

people-2590616_640

Photo Credit: Pixabay.com and Pexels.com

Thank you for reading this post. Sign up with our newsletter or follow this site via email.