4 Areas to Explore if You’re compatible with Your Partner

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It’s not true that one’s character is shown in one’s face. If it’s angelic and beautiful, then he or she is Mr. Or Ms. X, the long-lost soul mate or destined partner in life! Social science research has shown that there is no dependable association between facial features and personality traits. A person may look meek, soft-spoken, wholesome, and with sympathetic eyes, but may turn out to be abusive, violent and indecent in real life after a long acquaintance with him or her. Thus, a person cannot immediately identify his or her right partner in life based solely on facial or physical features during the first encounter or first date despite the strong feeling of romantic attraction or “love at first sight”.

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Moreover, a person who is infatuated is usually blinded with romantic passion or intense feeling of attraction for his or her partner that he or she tends to neglect knowing his or her true character and personality. Just enjoying the current bliss of falling in love without a serious effort to know the real character of one’s partner is a dangerous attitude, especially if the person intends to find his or her true love and enter into marriage. Relying merely on the attractive looks of one’s partner and intense romantic feeling for him or her can be deceiving. Many marriage counselors would say that people in love could not really know the real person or character of their partners unless they live together constantly in a conjugal home for at least five years in marriage. Knowing the real person of one’s romantic partner requires time, effort, and scientific strategies to know the real person behind the smiling and loving face!

Explore first whether there are strong signs that you’re compatible with your partner in the following areas:

Cultural Orientation. Check if your suitor or partner grew up in a culture similar to yours. Culture is a way of life in terms of beliefs, values, practices, etc. There is indeed a big cultural difference if an Asian marries an American. Asians, for instance, value more loyalty to their relatives and local communities than Americans who prioritizes individual rights. Differences in cultural upbringing can cause regular conflicts between partners in terms of taste, preferences, beliefs, and some practices. Marriage is cross-cultural, so one partner needs to adjust to the cultural uniqueness of the other to preserve the marital commitment.

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Religion. This is another big factor to consider if you and your partner wishes to enter into marriage. There are religions or churches which do not allow mixed marriage. Thus one partner is forced to convert to their partner’s religion. Differences in religious beliefs and practices can also divide one’s family. There is one couple in the Philippines where the father belongs to a Christian church while the mother is a Catholic. Every Sunday, the family is divided. Two children go with the father, while the three others join their mother to attend the Mass.

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Social Class. Differences in social class standing can cause serious conflicts in a couple’s relationship. Society classifies people according to the amount of their wealth or property, thus the rich belong to the upper class, the professionals as middle class, and poor as working class. Each social class has its own lifestyle, beliefs, and behavior. Rich people think and behave differently compared to the poor. Thus, the advise of many behavioral scientists and counselors is for people to marry their own class to minimize conflicts in romantic or marital relationship. The first to oppose in a relationship that involves a rich guy and a poor lady is usually the parents and relatives. It is normal for them to think that the poor person wants to marry their rich son or relative because of the wealth s/he might inherit.

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Globalization of Love: Benefits & Risks of Online Dating

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BENEFITS

Many people today turn to the Internet and navigate in the cyber space to find their romantic partners. The Internet offers benefits in online dating. With the advent of globalization, digital technology, and the cyber space, people all over  can easily look for partners around the globe through various dating sites. Traditionally, before the invention of the Internet in the late 1980’s, people’s choice of finding their romantic partners is limited by physical distance and spatio-temporal space. Thus, they search for partners who are proximate to them in their school, office, neighborhood, or organization. But with the current worldwide web and many dating sites, they can now look for partners worldwide. Online dating has its own benefits and risks, though.

1. Cheaper

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To find a romantic partner through online dating sites is cheaper than face-to-face dating encounters. Since there are many free dating sites, one can easily join their social network and start finding a romantic partner. One only needs a  gadget  and an Internet connection. In online dating, the guy does not spend a penny just to talk to his dating partner, no coffee or dinner date.

2. Convenient

A person who search for a partner online can immediately focus on people with similar, beliefs, age and other important criteria without having to spend time and money for a date. Non-matching people can easily be sidestepped without ever needing to make contact. Online dating is a “partner shopping” in a global supermarket of humanity (Healthyplace.com).

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3. Easy Access & Higher Chance of Finding a Match

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In online dating, potential partners can easily access  many potential partners than they could often find in face-to-face interaction. This is especially true for individuals interested in partners of a particular type, orientation, lifestyle, or in isolated areas (Nicholeson, 20 April 2014).

Many online dating sites offer various types of personality testing and matching. Such matching can help guide people toward dating partners who may be more compatible (Ibid).

Risks

1. Scamming

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Often in the form of an odd financial request, the scammer will spend a few weeks talking to a target to gain their trust, then, seemingly out of the blue the victim will receive a request for financial aid due to some outlandish set of circumstances that has befallen their new friend.

2. Catfishing/ Misrepresentation

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The term catfishing refers to the practice of creating a fake online identity or profile to pursue one or multiple online relationships. While this is a less common occurrence on the more sinister end of the spectrum, as it turns out, everybody lies; according to a 2007 survey The Truth about Lying in Online Dating Profiles 81% of online dater’s lie about characteristics such as height, figure and age.

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3. Identity Theft

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Age old advice, be careful what you put online. NEVER post your address on your profile as this can lead to a whole host of problems beyond identity theft such as stalking and harassment.

Online Dating websites need a lot of personal and financial information to set up an account so make sure you have an up to date Internet Security software package installed to safeguard yourself from viruses and hacking.

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References

Nicholson,J. (30 April 2014). Pros and Cons of Online Dating: When and How to Date Online. Psychology Today. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201404/pros-and-cons-online-dating.

Notorn Team (n.d.). “Is Online Dating for you? The risks and benefits of searching for love online”. Norton UKBlog. Retrieved from https://uk.norton.com/norton-blog/2016/05/is_online_datingfor0.html.

Healthyplace.com (n.d.). “Advantages and Disadvantages of Online Dating”. Retrieved from https://www.healthyplace.com/relationships/online-relationships/the-advantages-and-disadvantages-of-online-dating

 

7 Danger Signs that Your Boyfriend Only Wants Sex in Your Relationship

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1. He only notices how you look and not your personhood. 

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You are more than your physical appearance. You have your own set of values, religious beliefs, intelligence, life goals, and plans for a lifetime commitment in marriage Men who are sincerely interested in a relationship with you  will compliment you for your personal qualities and dignity as a person. They would also appreciate your talents and abilities, and sense of humor.

Men who are focused on having sex with you will tell you how great your hair looks or hot your ass looks in that dress. He would always tell how he noticed your sexy body parts. If your boyfriend is only interested of your body, then your relationship with him is going nowhere. Find another guy!

2. His conversations always turns sexual

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If your boyfriend always talk about sexual matters with you, even if done in jest, then he is not serious to bring to the altar of marriage. If you tell him about your successful sales presentation and he remarks how about how the client probably couldn’t take his eyes off you because you’re so beautiful and look so hot in your business suit, then your man is probably after only of your body. When you tell him you can hardly wait to go home and just soak in a hot bath, he’s quick to tell you, he wishes he could be there to wash your back, then he is not serious in your relationship. It’s time to say goodbye to him!

3. He does not invest in your relationship.

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Men who are only interested in sex don’t want to invest more time or money in developing a relationship with you. They are looking only for convenience and the easiest way to gratify their needs. They would never bring you to expensive restaurants for fine dining nor spend more money for text messaging and calls to contact you. They don’t buy expensive gifts. They would prefer to bring you to a burger or pizza house to save money. They usually disappear and look for another prey once they get what they want from you.

4. He wants hug, kiss, and then to go straight to the bed with you.

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In a relationship where someone is excited about knowing you, curious about your life and what you think, there are so many things to talk about. In a relationship where someone is only interested in using you for sex, there’s nothing important to discuss (Segel, 2017). Love waits! If your boyfriend is really serious to wed you in the church, he would wait for the honeymoon!

5.  He doesn’t introduce you to his family, close relatives, and friends. He’s in a hurry!

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If your boyfriend is not introducing you to his family, close relatives, and friends, he has a sinister plan for you. He is not interested of establishing a long-term commitment with you in marriage. Remember that marriage of two people is also a union of two families and their network of relatives and friends. If he is keeping you away from his family and relatives, he’s probably thinking only of a short-term relationship with you and may only be thinking of having sex with you! He’s in a hurry. If this is the case, start looking for another guy worthy of your love!

6. He’s Handsy

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You’re out together in a movie or even in public, and he constantly wants to kiss you, rub you, grope you, and tells you he can’t wait to get all naked, then stay away from him.”If he can’t keep his hands off of you, then that’s actually a bad sign that he is only interested of your body and not your real self as a person. Dump him! Find another guy who is mature and serious of marrying you! (Segel, 2017).

7. He says he loves you immediately.

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The first stage of love is infatuation. If a guy tells you that he immediately loves you the moment he saw you, he’s lying and more likely be looking only for sex. He is not a serious in your courtship  and to bring you to the altar. True love takes time and effort to know the attitude, value system, and personality of one’s partner.

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References

Schwimmer, L. (6 Dec 2017). “10 Signs he Only Wants Sex with You!.” Huffpost. Retrieved from https://www.huffingtonpost.com/larry-schwimmer/10-signs-he-only-wants-to_b_7688110.html.

Segel, A. (17 June 2017). “6 signs a Guy is Using You for Sex”. Elite Daily. Retrieved from https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/sex/signs-a-guy-is-using-you-for-sex/1994771.

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4 Areas to Explore if You’re compatible with Your Partner

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It’s not true that one’s character is shown in one’s face. If it’s angelic and beautiful, then he or she is Mr. Or Ms. X, the long-lost soul mate or destined partner in life! Social science research has shown that there is no dependable association between facial features and personality traits. A person may look meek, soft-spoken, wholesome, and with sympathetic eyes, but may turn out to be abusive, violent and indecent in real life after a long acquaintance with him or her. Thus, a person cannot immediately identify his or her right partner in life based solely on facial or physical features during the first encounter or first date despite the strong feeling of romantic attraction or “love at first sight”.

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Moreover, a person who is infatuated is usually blinded with romantic passion or intense feeling of attraction for his or her partner that he or she tends to neglect knowing his or her true character and personality. Just enjoying the current bliss of falling in love without a serious effort to know the real character of one’s partner is a dangerous attitude, especially if the person intends to find his or her true love and enter into marriage.

otp drift compatible pacific rim GIF

Relying merely on the attractive looks of one’s partner and intense romantic feeling for him or her can be deceiving.  Many marriage counselors would say that people in love could not really know the real person or character of their partners unless they live together constantly in a conjugal home for at least five years in marriage. Knowing the real person of one’s romantic partner requires time, effort, and scientific strategies to know the real person behind the smiling and loving face!

Explore first whether there are strong signs that you’re compatible with your partner in the following areas:

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Cultural Orientation. Check if your suitor or partner grew up in a culture similar to yours. Culture is a way of life in terms of beliefs, values, practices, etc. There is indeed a big cultural difference if an Asian marries an American. Asians, for instance, value more loyalty to their relatives and local communities than Americans who prioritizes individual rights. Differences in cultural upbringing can cause regular conflicts between partners in terms of taste, preferences, beliefs, and some practices. Marriage is cross-cultural, so one partner needs to adjust to the cultural uniqueness of the other to preserve the marital commitment.

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Religion. This is another big factor to consider if you and your partner wishes to enter into marriage. There are religions or churches which do not allow mixed marriage. Thus one partner is forced to convert to their partner’s religion. Differences in religious beliefs and practices can also divide one’s family. There is one couple in the Philippines where the father belongs to a Christian church while the mother is a Catholic. Every Sunday, the family is divided. Two children go with the father, while the three others join their mother to attend the Mass.

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Social Class. Differences in social class standing can cause serious conflicts in a couple’s relationship. Society classifies people according to the amount of their wealth or property, thus the rich belong to the upper class, the professionals as middle class, and poor as working class. Each social class has its own lifestyle, beliefs, and behavior. Rich people think and behave differently compared to the poor. Thus, the advise of many behavioral scientists and counselors is for people to marry their own class to minimize conflicts in romantic or marital relationship.

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The first to oppose in a relationship that involves a rich guy and a poor lady is usually the parents and relatives. It is normal for them to think that the poor person wants to marry their rich son or relative because of the wealth s/he might inherit.

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7 Danger Signs that Your Boyfriend Only Wants Sex in Your Relationship

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1. He only notices how you look and not your personhood. 

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You are more than your physical appearance. You have your own set of values, religious beliefs, intelligence, life goals, and plans for a lifetime commitment in marriage Men who are sincerely interested in a relationship with you  will compliment you for your personal qualities and dignity as a person. They would also appreciate your talents and abilities, and sense of humor.

Men who are focused on having sex with you will tell you how great your hair looks or hot your ass looks in that dress. He would always tell how he noticed your sexy body parts. If your boyfriend is only interested of your body, then your relationship with him is going nowhere. Find another guy!

2. His conversations always turns sexual

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If your boyfriend always talk about sexual matters with you, even if done in jest, then he is not serious to bring to the altar of marriage. If you tell him about your successful sales presentation and he remarks how about how the client probably couldn’t take his eyes off you because you’re so beautiful and look so hot in your business suit, then your man is probably after only of your body. When you tell him you can hardly wait to go home and just soak in a hot bath, he’s quick to tell you, he wishes he could be there to wash your back, then he is not serious in your relationship. It’s time to say goodbye to him!

3. He does not invest in your relationship.

season 3 josh GIF by Bachelor in Paradise

Men who are only interested in sex don’t want to invest more time or money in developing a relationship with you. They are looking only for convenience and the easiest way to gratify their needs. They would never bring you to expensive restaurants for fine dining nor spend more money for text messaging and calls to contact you. They don’t buy expensive gifts. They would prefer to bring you to a burger or pizza house to save money. They usually disappear and look for another prey once they get what they want from you.

4. He wants hug, kiss, and then to go straight to the bed with you.

the oc kiss GIF

In a relationship where someone is excited about knowing you, curious about your life and what you think, there are so many things to talk about. In a relationship where someone is only interested in using you for sex, there’s nothing important to discuss (Segel, 2017). Love waits! If your boyfriend is really serious to wed you in the church, he would wait for the honeymoon!

5.  He doesn’t introduce you to his family, close relatives, and friends. He’s in a hurry!

jane the virgin date GIF

If your boyfriend is not introducing you to his family, close relatives, and friends, he has a sinister plan for you. He is not interested of establishing a long-term commitment with you in marriage. Remember that marriage of two people is also a union of two families and their network of relatives and friends. If he is keeping you away from his family and relatives, he’s probably thinking only of a short-term relationship with you and may only be thinking of having sex with you! He’s in a hurry. If this is the case, start looking for another guy worthy of your love!

6. He’s Handsy

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You’re out together in a movie or even in public, and he constantly wants to kiss you, rub you, grope you, and tells you he can’t wait to get all naked, then stay away from him.”If he can’t keep his hands off of you, then that’s actually a bad sign that he is only interested of your body and not your real self as a person. Dump him! Find another guy who is mature and serious of marrying you! (Segel, 2017).

7. He says he loves you immediately.

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The first stage of love is infatuation. If a guy tells you that he immediately loves you the moment he saw you, he’s lying and more likely be looking only for sex. He is not a serious in your courtship  and to bring you to the altar. True love takes time and effort to know the attitude, value system, and personality of one’s partner.

GIF Credits: Giphy.com

References

Schwimmer, L. (6 Dec 2017). “10 Signs he Only Wants Sex with You!.” Huffpost. Retrieved from https://www.huffingtonpost.com/larry-schwimmer/10-signs-he-only-wants-to_b_7688110.html.

Segel, A. (17 June 2017). “6 signs a Guy is Using You for Sex”. Elite Daily. Retrieved from https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/sex/signs-a-guy-is-using-you-for-sex/1994771.

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